Today lesson triggers hidden memories back to me. 😀
Haha, okay. So I’m going to talk about perspections again today. So apparently Perception is the active process of creating meaning by selecting, organising, and interpreting people, objects, events, situations. Perception consists of the process: Selecting, Organising and interpreting.
Normally what we do is actually to divert our attention to what we defined as important and somehow, we were unaware of the other things and our surroundings that were happening around us. Basically, We choose what we want to see. And because change compels attention, we normally take for granted all the pleasant interactions with other people and notice only the tense moment. Sad to say, our motives and needs will affect what we want to see and what we don’t. Maybe that is the reason why we always have unhappy moments. We tend to neglect those happy moments we had before.
Constructivism states that we organize and interpret experience by applying cognitive structures called schemata. We normally organise our perceptions by allowing ourself to place people or other things in categories. For example, to define who is our friend and who is our best friend. That is a prototype.
Not only that, we used personal construct as well. We rely on the constructs to judge other people. Yet, these constructs that we rely on, shape our perceptions because we define things only in terms of how construct is being used. Another thing that we usually do, either intentionally or unintentionally is to stereotype. It is a generalization applied to a person or situation. Yet, they could be wrong as well. The last one, is script. It is a guide to action. They are based on our experiences and observations of interaction. They guide us, and we grew up that way.
Yet, we have to know that all perceptions are partial and subjective.We have to be careful of not getting into misunderstandings. Most importantly, we have to remember everyone have different perspectives.
These are things we can do. (got from the book :D)
1) Recognize that all perceptions are partial and subjective
2) Avoid Mind Reading
3) Check Perspections with others
4) Distinguish between facts and inferences
5) Guard against the self-serving bias
6) Guard against the fundamental attribution error
7) Monitor labels
Maybe, we should learn how to look at things in different perspectives. Things might not be that bad or have reasons that could explain, If you just look at another way.
Things will be better, trust me. 🙂
“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.”
-Frances Hodson Burnett, The Secret Garden.
If you want more readings or information, Please go and buy the Interpersonal communication book. teehee.